In psychological terms, this might involve always relying on the same coping mechanisms, rather than looking for new solutions. Rather than falling prey to this tendency, Maslow’s quote suggests that you try expanding your horizons a bit to learn about new ways of thinking and explore different ways of communicating with others. Maslow is also known for his hierarchy of needs. As James’s quote suggests, sometimes it is important to do things even if you do not necessarily enjoy or want to engage in these activities. For an ardent introvert, starting conversations with strangers would be a great example of an undesirable task that might lead to an unexpected reward. If you find yourself falling into a rut, try taking James’ advice. Challenge yourself to try something new or tackle something that you don’t necessarily find enjoyable: enrolling in a new class, trying a different workout, or committing to a marathon. See what skills and knowledge you might gain from the experience. In psychology, this concept is often referred to as having an internal locus of control. Essentially, your locus of control refers to whether you see the events in your life as outside of your control or whether you feel that your actions can influence your destiny. People who have an internal locus of control tend to feel more in control, have a greater sense of self-efficacy, and are typically happier and healthier. Those who possess an external locus of control often feel helpless, powerless, and unmotivated to make changes in their lives. Ellis is known for developing rational emotive behavior therapy, a type of cognitive-behavioral therapy focused on helping clients change irrational beliefs. Rogers’s quote suggests that while focusing on such stories might make the world seem like a terrible place, focusing on individual people can help you maintain a more optimistic and realistic view of the world. News articles and social media stories don’t offer a true look at what’s going on in the world around you. If you find yourself getting pessimistic about the world, take a look at the people around you who can help boost you up. Focus on stories about inspirational people who are doing great things and making powerful contributions to society. As Carl Rogers suggests, the world is full of kind and generous people who can inspire great optimism. As B. F. Skinner says, the sum of our knowledge goes far beyond simple textbook learning. While the information you learn in class might not be retained in long-term memory after taking an exam, the critical thinking skills acquired while pursuing an education will last a lifetime. The learning process never ends, even long after the days of school are over. Never stop challenging yourself to explore new information, new ways of doing things, and different ways of thinking about the world. Follow Now: Apple Podcasts / Spotify / Google Podcasts Instead of focusing on the things that you think will ultimately lead to “living the good life,” such as having a big house, driving a nice car, and going on exotic vacations, focus your attention on the everyday good things in your life. The things you learn, the family and friends you share your life with, and the things that bring you happiness are the greatest indicators of a happy, fulfilled life.
