That premise holds true for all dads, regardless of what they may be going through. If a father is dealing with mental health issues, there are gifts that can not only make him feel loved, but also encouraged during his challenges. As we celebrate this upcoming Father’s Day and bring greater awareness to men’s mental health this month, we look at gift ideas that can uplift and support them as they bravely work through mental health issues.
Pressures Dads Are Facing
In the United States, 1 out of 10 men will struggle with depression at some point in their lives. All men are inundated with duties at work and in the community. Dads have additional weights with responsibilities inside the home. They may experience parental burnout or be overwhelmed with stress and anxiety caring for their family. Add in concerns about finances, retirement, and a host of other issues, and dads’ plates are full. While being a father is a rewarding experience mentally and emotionally, it can take its toll. Research shows that 70% of dads say their stress levels increased within the first year of becoming a father. For almost a quarter of those dads, their stress levels increased significantly. Time commitments and family demands brought on a sizable amount of stress. While another pair of socks or cologne may seem like the ideal gift, it may not be the best gift for your dad. But knowing what he enjoys, and being aware of his struggles, can help decide on the perfect gift for him.
Gifts to Support Dads’ Mental Health
The gift ideas for dads are as varied as fathers themselves. Presents that are beneficial for dad can range from those focused on mental health treatment, to those that help alleviate some of his burdens. And of course, there are options that are just plain fun, and will allow him to enjoy himself.
Gifts of Affirmation
If words of affirmation are your father’s love language, this type of gift can build him up mentally and emotionally. Affirmation jewelry, including necklaces and bracelets, specialize in messages that can continually encourage dad. Younger kids may enjoy writing a message to dad to let him know how special he is. In fact, if your father is someone who keeps special letters, cards, and mementoes, a letter of love and encouragement could be the perfect gift, no matter the age of the child. Mugs, signs, and picture frames are a few other gifts that can display a message of affirmation.
Gifts of Time
Does dad usually fix dinner? Does he mow the lawn every week? Taking one of these chores off his hands could be a pleasant surprise for him. Another interpretation of the gift of time is the family coming together to do something dad enjoys. While research shows that dads are spending more time with their children than they did decades ago, more than 60% of fathers say it’s still not enough time. A family board game or movie could be the ideal way to bring everyone together. Toddlers and young kids love a good game of hide-and-seek, especially around the house. Little kids also love telling jokes. Dad may revel in having the time to judge a joke-telling contest.
Gifts of Relaxation
Spa gifts or days of pampering are typical thoughts for moms on Mother’s Day. While those exact activities may not be on dad’s horizon, giving him a day to relax is a great way to say how much the family values his time. Reading the newspaper all day, hanging out on the couch watching TV, spending time in his man cave, or a bike ride in the great outdoors can allow dad to reflect and focus on himself—something he doesn’t get to do enough. “We want dad to know that it’s okay to do some self-care, however he defines the self-care, [and] be supportive of that,” says Mayra Mendez, PhD, LMFT, a licensed psychotherapist and program coordinator for intellectual and developmental disabilities and mental health services at Providence Saint John’s Child and Family Development Center.
Experience Gifts
Skydiving, flight lessons, racecar driving, and going up in a hot-air balloon are exciting gifts that create an experience. In addition to the fun it creates, going to a new environment can also be beneficial for his mental health. Experts say that your surroundings can influence your well-being. Kids of all ages can join in on the excitement with dad.
Gifts of Mental Health
Giving dad gifts to help improve his mental health shows love, care, and concern. Apps, books, and online courses that tackle depression, anxiety, and other mental health issues can bridge the gap between dad wanting help and making inroads to get it. The family can also provide dad with the gift of therapy. Gifting dad a virtual therapy session may make him feel safe and comfortable with the ability to start treatment in his own home. No matter what way you choose to show love to Dad, the most important thing is that he knows he is loved. The biggest thing is to be curious. Lean in. Learn about that man’s experience and [say], ‘What can I do to support you?’” concludes Nathaan Demers, PsyD, VP of Clinical Programs and Strategic Partnerships, Grit Digital Health.
