It was one of the first types of family therapy interventions and helps improve relationships between caregivers and children. By teaching parents play therapy skills, filial therapy allows parents to become active in helping their kids overcome problems. This therapy also helps children develop new skills while also strengthening the family unit. Filial therapy assumes that while children may not remember every specific experience of their childhood, the ways that others respond to them play a role in confirming, reinforcing, and validating their behaviors and emotions. These automatic and involuntary responses to interpersonal interactions are known as interpersonal reflexes. Over time, this leads to consistent patterns of interpersonal responding that carry on throughout childhood and adulthood. Through filial therapy, children can develop healthier ways of communicating and interacting with others by establishing a pattern of attentive, responsive, and reflective interactions.
Techniques of Filial Therapy
Once parents have learned these techniques, they continue to engage in weekly play sessions with their children. These sessions occur at home and continue for a period of around six months to a year. However, parents can continue to utilize filial therapy for as long as they want and as long as a child remains sufficiently motivated. During filial therapy, parents are taught to use four primary techniques to engage in play therapy with their children. These techniques are:
Structuring
Play sessions last for half an hour and occur in a highly-structured context. Parents learn to begin a play session by setting up a specific area for play. Once the area has been created, children are told they can play however they want.
Child-Centered Imaginary Play
Parents watch their children engage in imaginary play. The goal is to observe the child without interfering or attempting to give directions or suggestions. During these play sessions, parents impose few limitations or consequences. The structured context in which play sessions occur is designed to help kids take initiative, express themselves freely, and promote independence and self-regulation.
Empathetic Listening
As the child plays, parents will observe, listen, and offer commentary on what the child is doing. The purpose of this activity is to reflect on what a child may be doing, feeling, or experiencing as they play. Parents learn to acknowledge their children’s initiative, their actions, and their expressions of emotions. These observations occur with acceptance and without judgment.
Limit Setting
There are few rules in the play session, but parents learn to intervene when a child engages in aggressive or destructive actions. Children are free to play as they want but must follow basic safety guidelines and are not allowed to engage in behaviors such as hitting, destroying toys, or climbing on the furniture.
What Filial Therapy Can Help With
Filial therapy can help treat various issues and conditions that affect children’s behavioral, social, and emotional functioning. It may be used to treat:
Adoption or foster care issues Aggressive behaviors Anxiety Attachment issues Attention-deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) Depression Issues arising from chronic illness Oppositional defiance disorder Trauma
Benefits of Filial Therapy
Filial therapy can have several important benefits for both children and parents.
Children
Gain new skills and a sense of masteryIt can improve a child’s self-conceptLearn to take greater responsibility for their actionsGain a better understanding of their feelings
Parents
Gain greater insight into their children’s motivationsBecome more trusting and accepting of their child’s independenceLearn to set more effective limits and consequencesBecome more confident in their skills as parents
Filial therapy also helps children and their parents become more open and receptive to one another. It can help kids develop a more secure attachment, improve communication, reduce negativity, and ultimately improve the stability of the family unit.
Effectiveness
The impact of filial therapy has been studied since its introduction in the 1960s. One of the earliest investigations found that people who used filial therapy remained engaged in treatment longer than people who used traditional treatment approaches.
One study found that families that participated in a filial treatment called child-parent relationship therapy (CPRT) experienced significant improvements in family satisfaction, cohesion, communication, and flexibility. This approach also improves parents’ empathy, acceptance, and self-esteem. Research has found that filial therapy contributes to positive changes in the family environment, improving child behavior and reducing parental stress. A 2019 study found that filial therapy helped reduce symptoms of depression in children with cancer and decreased symptoms of stress, anxiety, and depression in their parents.
Things to Consider
It is important to recognize that filial therapy differs considerably from other types of traditional interventions. Instead of being led by a therapist, the therapist’s function is to teach parents the techniques they can apply in parent-led play sessions. Filial therapy also does not distinguish between intervention and prevention. The techniques that parents use are the same in either case. While this can help improve parenting skills and foster healthy child development, additional support and treatment may be needed for children diagnosed with a mental health condition. Filial therapy can be helpful alongside other cognitive, behavior, emotion, or learning interventions in such cases. This approach to therapy requires parents to take an active role and function as agents of change in their child’s life. As parents learn to engage in play therapy, they must remember to adhere to important principles to make play therapy effective. This includes being warm, friendly, accepting, respectful, patient, and non-directive. At the same time, parents must utilize caution to avoid criticizing, praising, questioning, leading, interrupting, moralizing, or initiating new activities.
How to Get Started
If you are interested in trying filial therapy with your children, it can be helpful to get an idea of how the process works. A basic filial therapy program consists of 10 sessions. During the first sessions, the therapist introduces the program, learns more about the problem, and demonstrates the process. They also demonstrate the process, review each session, and model play session skills with parents and children. Sessions four through six focus on parents engaging in supervised play sessions and preparation for conducting these sessions at home. Next, parents begin conducting sessions with their children in a home setting. Later sessions with the therapist are focused on reviewing the progress of home sessions and discussing how the skills learned during play therapy can be incorporated into everyday life. To find a therapist, consider asking your child’s pediatrician for a referral or contact mental health professionals in your area to learn if they have training and experience with filial therapy.
