The first few therapy sessions can be awkward as your child gets to know their therapist. It is OK to spend a few sessions getting comfortable in the therapy setting before deciding if there is a good fit, or to try out a few therapists to see who your child clicks with. But, even after all of that, you might realize that the therapist you selected is not the right fit and want to make a change. The idea of finding a new therapist after you have done all that work can seem daunting. But sometimes your child needs continued therapy, and their current therapist is no longer an option. This article covers the reasons why you or your child may want a new therapist and how to go about changing your therapist.
Reasons Why Your Child May Want a New Therapist
Although your child’s therapist might give you feedback on parenting and communicating with your child, they are the client in this situation. As such, the therapist needs to be someone your child trusts and is comfortable with.
Your Child May Prefer Someone of Another Gender
If your child would feel more comfortable, for example, with a therapist of a different gender, you can use the same tools that you used to find their first therapist to find someone who meets their requested criteria.
Your Child May Feel That There Is a Personality Mismatch
If your child says that the therapist’s temperament or personality is not a good fit, you can ask the current therapist for a recommendation and referral. Therapeutic fit is an important component in treatment regardless of your child’s presenting symptoms. Everyone has different needs and preferences, and no therapist is the right fit for every client. For example, if the therapist has a serious presence, and your child would prefer someone who is more laid back, you can try to find someone whose personality is a better fit.
Your Child May Prefer a Group Setting
If it was originally your idea to enroll your child in therapy, ask your child how they feel about meeting with a therapist. If they feel uncomfortable or put on the spot meeting with someone individually, they might prefer a therapy group. Again, their therapist might be able to provide recommendations for this. Group therapy can be an effective treatment option for children.
Your Child May Not Be Ready for Therapy
Sometimes, people are not ready to be in therapy. If your child is hesitant about therapy overall and are not experiencing suicidal ideation, it might help them to take a break from therapy all together until they are ready to engage. Forcing them to go will not make therapy effective, and it could cause them to think of therapy as something terrible that they do not want to try in the future.
Reasons Why a Parent Might Want a Change in Therapist
If your child is in therapy, it is important that they have a therapist that they like and can connect with; however, you might still have reasons why you’d prefer a change in therapists. For more mental health resources, see our National Helpline Database.
You Have Questions About the Therapeutic Process
Therapy with children and teens looks different than therapy with adults. If you have questions about the process, ask your child’s therapist. If you have concerns about fit, but your child seems happy with their therapist, explore your reservations and communicate with the therapist about your concerns.
You Might Also Be Involved in the Therapy Process
When you and your child are meeting with the therapist together for family therapy or attachment work, it is important for both of you to have a good rapport with the therapist. In that case, again, it can help to talk to the therapist about your concerns and get a referral to someone who might be a better fit.
Your Insurance May Have Changed
Different therapists accept different forms of payment. Unfortunately, if your insurance carrier changes, your therapist might not be paneled with your new company. You might also lose health insurance and not be able to afford the out-of-pocket cost of therapy. If this happens, your child’s therapist might be able to offer you a sliding scale rate that you can afford. Your insurance company has information about providers who are in-network with them. They can give you the names of therapists who can accept your new plan. In addition, some therapist directories allow you to search based on who accepts your coverage.
How to Change Your Child’s Therapist
Therapy needs vary greatly. Some people come for a few sessions, and some seek ongoing therapy for several years. Your child’s needs might change over time: something new might emerge that is outside their current therapist’s scope of practice, or they might prefer a therapist who specializes in their age group as they get older.
A Word From Verywell
Changing therapists can feel awkward, especially if you have a problem with the current therapist. It is OK to change providers if that is what is best for your child. Licensed therapists are professionals who understand not to take it personally if someone needs different care. The most important thing is that your child gets the treatment and support that they need. Here are some tips for finding a new therapist:
Ask for referrals from your current therapist: It’s helpful to ask your therapist for recommendations. Let them know why you are making a change, and ask them for referrals.Find a new therapist online: Research directories online and filter for your preferences.Ask family and friends: You can reach out to your own personal network for a referral to a new therapist.
