It is important to note that paraphobia is not recognized as a distinct disorder in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, Fifth Edition (DSM-5), the tool that doctors and mental health professionals use to diagnose mental health conditions. Instead, it may be diagnosed as a specific phobia, which involves an excessive and distressing fear of something such as an object or situation.
Symptoms of Paraphobia
A phobia differs from normal fear by its symptoms. These symptoms are excessive and interfere with a person’s ability to live normally. A person who has a fear of sexual perversion may experience symptoms such as:
Anxiety Dry mouth Feelings of dread Irrational fear Nausea Panic Rapid heartbeat Shortness of breath Terror
In some cases, people may even experience panic attacks as a result of their fear. Symptoms of panic attacks include racing heartbeat and rapid breathing. People may have difficulty breathing or feel that they are having a heart attack.
Diagnosis of Paraphobia
Although paraphobia is not an officially recognized diagnosis, your doctor may diagnose you with a specific phobia if your symptoms meet the criteria for that condition. The following must be present:
Excessive, unreasonable fear of a situation or objectImmediate anxiety response to the fearEfforts to avoid the source of fear or extreme distress upon exposure
Your doctor will want to rule out other disorders that might be causing your symptoms, such as substance use disorders, schizophrenia, paranoid personality disorder, and obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD). Your doctor may rule out other types of specific phobias such as erotophobia (the fear of sex). Phobias are diagnosed only if the fear causes difficulty in everyday life. For example, if two people who agree on their personal boundaries and comfort zones marry or form a relationship, they can be perfectly happy throughout their lives. Difficulties may arise, however, if one partner’s definition of perversion is different than the other’s, or the person has difficulty forming a relationship as a result of the fear.
Causes of Paraphobia
The exact causes of paraphobia are not known, but various factors likely play a role. As with other specific phobias, factors that can contribute to paraphobia include:
Brain abnormalitiesGeneticsFamily historyNegative or traumatic experiencesUpbringing
Some common underlying fears—for example, of humiliation, rejection, or intimacy—can help cause this phobia to develop
Impact of Paraphobia
Like other types of specific phobias, paraphobia can have a serious impact on a person’s life. It can lead to problems with school, work, home life, and relationships. People who are afraid of sexual perversion (either in themselves or in others), may find it difficult to form and maintain relationships with other people. In some cases, people may become so afraid of experiencing symptoms of their condition that they avoid certain settings or situations entirely. This can make going to school or work very difficult. Specific phobias can also contribute to feelings of helplessness, isolation, loneliness, and shame. Fortunately, these symptoms can be managed effectively with appropriate treatment.
Treatment for Paraphobia
Psychotherapy and medication are usually effective. If your fear causes problems in daily life, address it with a compassionate and nonjudgmental therapist.
Psychotherapy
The most effective treatment for specific phobias is exposure therapy. This process involves gradually and progressively being exposed to the source of the fear. Eventually, people become accustomed to the feared object or situation and learn that their symptoms are manageable. Exposure is often combined with cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), which helps identify and change anxious, negative thoughts that contribute to phobic responses.
Medication
Medications such as selective-serotonin reuptake inhibitors (SSRIs) and benzodiazepinesare sometimes prescribed to help manage anxiety symptoms, particularly during the early stages of treatment. These medications are most effective when used in conjunction with psychotherapy.
Coping With Paraphobia
You can help manage the symptoms of paraphobia with these strategies: For more mental health resources, see our National Helpline Database.
Deep breathing can be a helpful relaxation technique, particularly in situations that provoke fear or anxiety. Exercise can help relieve stress and manage anxiety. Meditation can help you feel more connected and aware of your body’s reactions to stress. Mindfulness involves a focus on the present and may help you manage worry and anxiety related to your phobia.
It is never acceptable for your partner to force you to participate in activities that make you feel uncomfortable or to make you feel bad about your decision not to. Likewise, it is unacceptable to judge your partner for an interest in expanding the range of your sexual activities together, provided that they’re legal and safe. If you are in a relationship, open communication and mutual respect are essential. Many couples find that seeing a therapist together is helpful in learning to accept and balance individual needs and desires.
A Word From Verywell
Working through paraphobia is a delicate and sensitive process that takes time. With hard work and an understanding therapist, however, there is no reason for your fear to control your life. Effective treatments for specific phobias such as paraphobia are available, so talk to your doctor or mental health professional if symptoms of your condition are interfering in your daily life.
