While transference is typically a term for the mental health field, it can manifest in daily life when the brain tries to comprehend a current experience by examining the present through the past. Here we explore the definition of transference in greater detail and the different types.
Defining Transference
Transference, in general, is “the process of moving something or someone from one place, position, etc. to another.” However, the psychology-based definition of transference is a bit different and applies directly to those engaged in mental health therapy. In this context, transference is defined as a projection of one’s unconscious feelings onto their therapist. The American Psychological Association explains that these feelings are ones that were originally directed toward important figures in the person’s childhood, such as their parents.
Types of Transference
Transference is a complex phenomenon and can sometimes be an obstacle to therapy. Based on their feelings, the client may feel tempted to cut off the relationship with their therapist altogether, for instance. Or they might become sullen and withdrawn during therapy sessions, impeding their progress. Working through transferred feelings is an important part of psychodynamic therapy. The nature of the transference can provide important clues to the client’s issues, while working through the situation can help resolve deep-rooted conflicts in their psyche. There are three types of transference in therapy:
Positive transferenceNegative transferenceSexualized transference
Positive Transference
Transference can sometimes be a good thing. An example of positive transference is when you apply enjoyable aspects of your past relationships to the relationship with your therapist. This can have a positive outcome because you see your therapist as caring, wise, and concerned about you. The benefits of positive transference can be seen in a case study involving a child with autism. Once positive transference started to occur, the young boy’s bond with the therapist started to strengthen and he began following the therapist’s directions, reduced his aggressive behaviors, and his learning abilities developed.
Negative Transference
Negative transference involves the transfer of negative emotions to the therapist. Anger and hostility are two emotions that might have been felt in childhood, either toward a parent or other important individual, then reappearing in the therapeutic relationship. Negative transference sounds bad but actually can enhance the therapeutic experience. Once realized, the therapist is able to use this transference as a topic of discussion, further examining the client’s emotional response.
Sexualized Transference
Do you feel attracted to your therapist? If so, you might be experiencing sexualized transference, also sometimes referred to as erotic transference. Feelings that fall under sexualized transference include those that are:
Intimate and sexualReverential or feelings of worshipRomantic and sensual
Some research suggests that sexualized transference may be more common for members of the LGBTQ+ community, especially if the person has few friends or others they can trust or confide in.
Counter-Transference
Mental health therapists must also be aware of the possibility that their own feelings and internal conflicts could be transferred to the client as well. This process is known as counter-transference and can muddy the therapeutic relationship. Despite the negative connotation of counter-transference, some psychotherapists use it in therapeutic ways. The therapist may choose to disclose their feelings if a client mentions that they seem angry, for instance, first crediting the client with recognizing this emotion and then working together to understand how much of the response may have been projected by the client.
Examples of Transference in Therapy
What does transference look like in a therapeutic setting? Here are a few examples to consider.
Example of Positive Transference
Tony’s mother was always loving and supportive. Tony has a female therapist and projects these same feelings on her, considering her as a loving, supportive individual as well.
Example of Negative Transference
Michelle became very angry with her therapist when he discussed the possibility of homework activities. Through the exploration of her anger with the therapist, Michelle discovered that she was experiencing transference of unresolved anger toward an authoritarian elementary school teacher.
Example of Sexualized Transference
As therapy progresses, Chris develops sexual feelings toward the therapist. Chris has even had erotic fantasies involving the therapist, sometimes also saying flirtatious things during the therapy session.
Discussing Transference With Your Therapist
If your therapist recognizes that you are experiencing transference, they may not want to discuss it right away. It will, however, be necessary to address the transference at some point because if the topic is avoided, it could lead to an impasse in therapy and negatively impact your relationship with your therapist. Additional consequences of avoiding transference are that you, the client, may:
Become embarrassed, uncomfortable, and withdraw from therapy emotionallyExperience higher levels of stress during therapy sessions due to how you feelRegress, which can negate some of the positive progress you already achieved
Talking about the transference when both you and the therapist are ready can help resolve these issues, enhancing the therapeutic process.
